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Can You Learn to Be Lucky?

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  • Author: Karla Starr
  • ASIN: B078GBQFVW
  • ISBN: 1591846862
  • Reference: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B078GBQFVW
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Highlights

While it’s realistic to accept that uncontrollable events or external luck exist, it’s maladaptive to believe that we’re completely powerless to influence the outcomes. — location: 192 ^ref-6302

The escape doors might open at any time, and the positive, adaptive approach to life must be learned. — location: 198 ^ref-1195

Scoring talent competitions and tattoo contests mimics the rest of life: Eventually, we lower our expectations—without even realizing that we’re doing it—if we’d like to leave without crying. — location: 293 ^ref-40910

The biggest factor determining a prisoner’s fate was simply how much time had passed since the judges’ last break. — location: 310 ^ref-45952

Be memorable. Who gets lucky? Whoever comes to mind when it’s time to choose. — location: 415 ^ref-9646

Go to the party or the lecture hall. — location: 743 ^ref-39931

Length of acquaintanceship is a proxy for trust. Eighty percent of success is just showing up. — location: 743 ^ref-4398

People stay in environments where they feel comfortable. If you show up someplace and feel like a stranger, push yourself and stay. — location: 752 ^ref-43919

Being considered safe or being similar to something awesome are shortcuts to establishing a good reputation—and that’s what makes someone seem trustworthy. — location: 753 ^ref-8257

To make better decisions, figure out what criteria are important ahead of time and how to best measure that. Stick to the script. — location: 1047 ^ref-11065

One self-affirmation intervention that asked students to write about an important personal value for fifteen minutes—like creativity or independence—eliminated their GPA decline over the course of the year compared with a control group. — location: 1677 ^ref-59606

People willing to do anything to improve refuse to let obstacles stand in their way. — location: 2000 ^ref-30037

Superior self-regulators are experts on themselves: They know how they function best, what motivates them, and hold themselves accountable. — location: 2310 ^ref-37786

Visualizing your best possible self and writing about it for twenty minutes increases optimism, or the perceived rosiness of your future. — location: 2916 ^ref-8750

The perceived highs motivate us, but the lows are what make people quit. Aim high and don’t beat yourself up along the way. Self-compassion is key. — location: 2928 ^ref-62235