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The Anxiety Toolkit

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overthink before taking action. — location: 79 ^ref-43746

self-critical. — location: 81 ^ref-11349

urge to keep seeking information rather than act — location: 100 ^ref-54818

sick feelings in your stomach — location: 104 ^ref-57111

Mentally replaying events — location: 105 ^ref-57104

excessively hesitating before taking action, ruminating and worrying, paralyzing perfectionism, fear of feedback and criticism, and avoidance (including procrastination). — location: 115 ^ref-41785

It’s fine to be someone who likes to mull things over — location: 144 ^ref-47406

a possible negative outcome isn’t necessarily a reason not to do something. — location: 147 ^ref-49109

Recognize your innate capacity to cope with things that don’t go according to plan. — location: 148 ^ref-38546

Recognize your innate capacity to cope with things that don’t go according to plan. — location: 148 ^ref-38546

you find yourself overchecking, overresearching, overthinking, or being unwilling to try something that’s important to you because of the chance that something might go wrong. — location: 150 ^ref-47546

how to cope with anxiety and stress and needed additional skills for doing this. — location: 168 ^ref-5291

you can’t wait for those feelings and concerns to go away before giving things a go. — location: 203 ^ref-55884

you. Part of learning to like and accept your nature is empowering yourself to ignore advice that doesn’t gel with you. — location: 210 ^ref-40122

this author had clearly learned to understand his own nature and to ignore advice that didn’t work for him. — location: 216 ^ref-34341

you need to understand your nature to understand your anxiety and mood. — location: 291 ^ref-19688

Having some stable, familiar elements to life can help people tolerate changes in other areas. — location: 326 ^ref-63915

you may hold back from saying things you want to say because of anxiety about how you’ll be perceived. — location: 339 ^ref-55626

Perfectionism and conscientiousness tend to be associated with opposite outcomes. — location: 350 ^ref-41066

The more people rely on their loved ones to do things for them when they feel anxious, the more their anxiety is likely to grow. — location: 491 ^ref-65254

You need to have your goals clearly in mind first, and then think about how you can pursue them without getting derailed by anxiety. — location: 518 ^ref-8905

If you feel embarrassed because some of your goals seem off the wall, that’s OK. — location: 547 ^ref-3230

focusing on pursuing things that feel meaningful. I’m not necessarily suggesting Mother Teresa–type activities. What gives you a sense of meaning could be anything from cooking for your friends to puttering away on projects in your garage. — location: 580 ^ref-63790

intolerance of uncertainty, — location: 654 ^ref-19861

You may contemplate many ideas without trying any of them, because you don’t feel certain enough to commit to one idea. — location: 656 ^ref-58767

what being hesitant has cost you in the past. — location: 700 ^ref-46969

a sense that until now you’ve been following a conventional path but one that isn’t consistent with your passions or core strengths. — location: 786 ^ref-38423

Changing your behavior, without waiting for your thoughts to always shift first, is one of the best and fastest ways you can reduce your anxiety. — location: 798 ^ref-9234

Replaying conversations with people in power positions in your life. — location: 914 ^ref-52020

Thinking about ways in which you’re not as perfect as you’d like to be. — location: 917 ^ref-42284

Thinking about things you should be doing to be more successful, — location: 919 ^ref-46568

worry often comes from lack of confidence in being able to handle situations. — location: 948 ^ref-35972

worry is often associated with not doing effective problem solving. — location: 950 ^ref-20356

Identify an example of your avoidance coping that’s driven by fear you’d be unable to cope with facing facts. — location: 1651 ^ref-40791